Sunday, October 21, 2007

The Success Principles ~ Principle #30

I've had to take a bit of a break from these posts but hopefully as of today I'll be back on track!
Number 30 in Jack Canfield's Success Principles is face what isn't working. The message is very straightforward and made abundantly clear in the first sentence: "If you are going to become more successful, you have to get out of denial and face what isn't working in your life."

Canfield tells us to pay attention to "yellow alerts," warning signals in our life that something's not quite right. This always reminds me of something I read by Carl Jung. I'll be paraphrasing here. The universe taps you on the shoulder to send you a message. And taps you again. And again. And if you continue to ignore it, eventually it will kick you in the butt! It's definitely to your advantage to listen to the universe's nudges.

In this chapter Canfield talks about how we create reasons, excuses, platitudes and myths to support our denial and that we do this out of fear, fear that things will get even worse. As a coach, I listen for when people say, "That's just the way it is" because that always points to a stuck place, a place that's solidified to support a toleration, a place where there's currently not hope for change, a place where my client isn't believing in themself. When you can make a shift in this belief, big changes can start happening. Canfield says successful people recognize bad situations and then decide to do something about them.
Personally when I read this chapter today I think about the message that's showing up in my temporomandibular joint. Yep, messages can show up anywhere. I've been having quite bad pain in there. I'm on medication for it now that is helping but it was bad enough to keep me up in the night. In fact, I think that clenching may be responsible for my recent tooth issue. My body is definitely trying to tell me something.
I've always associated the clenched jaw and TMJ with stress and maybe anger. I would think that it might means words that are going unsaid. But the funny thing is I'm really feeling happy. I'm doing so many wonderful things and enjoying them thoroughly. Herein I notice a bit of a flaw in my thinking. I seem to think that if I'm having fun, enjoying myself, than that means I never need to take a break and that leads to my favourite addiction - adrenalin living.
So my jaw is reminding me to loosen up, to take drooling time, hang-out time and stare at the stars. Powering forward at 100 mph, even if its fun, can wear you out when you're not looking. So I am recommitting to turning my computer of at 10 and to journalling. This week I will take some chair and stare time and also some studio time. I've also booked a Thai Yoga massage and am exploring the world of craniosacral work.
What's not working for you and how are you going to shift it?


Sacred Suzie said...

Water therapy! Shannon mentioned this before that you do it but I just got this strong sense that might help you too. I'm so sorry to hear that you also have this Jamie, man, it's so painful isn't it? As I said before, the stress has got to go somewhere and even the things that give us the most joy can be stressful. It's why I can't do anything creative at night, I will never sleep!

What isn't working for me? Etsy. I don't know why but it isn't. I think I just need to make my own site or something and do it on my own. I can't compete with people who sell jewellery for $5, how they make a living I'll never know. My stuff is worth more than that!

Michelle (a.k.a. la vie en rose) said...

i've been learning how true this principle can be lately. i had a relationship that i was very dissatisfied with. it was causing me a lot of heartache and depression. one day i decided i was sick and tried of the way it was. i decided i would start being more proactive in creating the relationship i really wanted. by making that shift the whole relationship shifted and it has been a million times better than it's been in YEARS!

megg said...

Hey! I haven't seen you in ages! I'm back in blogging land again - finally!!

PROCRASTINATION is not working for me. I have SO much I want to do that I end up doing NONE of it. So that's what's gonna shift!

Shannon said...

What's not working for me. Needing sleep! That keeps getting in the way. Ok, I guess the real answer would be overbooking myself, or more clearly not booking in relax/recovery time... which is a feat to admit! This week has been crazy and I am for sure getting that tap on the shoulder.

I also have to say that I loved that you said 'to take drooling time'. That rocks.

Melba said...

I am in a very happy place too.

I still have some issues to work out about money, it is something that has been difficult for me to get in a good place about. I have been able to change my thought patterns about my childhood and about my weight (two huge issues for me before I started blogging). I think sometimes I am so relieved to be in a happy place that it is easier to not think about my feelings about money. I grind my teeth at night, I do think our bodies try to tell us when we need to pay more attention to something.

great post jamie!