Every day on Twitter I post an OSHO Zen Card of the day. Last week I picked Schizophrenia, which is about following your heart when you're stuck. The ever-inspiring Magpie Girl asked me to write something about how to follow your heart during these schizophrenic moments.
My answer is "move."
When we're faced with making a tough decision, so often what we do is stop and think. But does mulling something over really work? If you come up with something in the first few minutes, awesome! But often, this is what happens. You give it 5 minutes. No answer. You take a break from it and come back. Nope, still don't know what to do. You decide you'll sleep on it. You wake up; nothing's changed. You chat about it with a friend. Three friends. You chat about it with your cat. Still stuck. Does that sound familiar? And kind of painful?
What you need is more information and where to get it is your heart. So, how do you hear what your heart has to say? The quick and easy way is to make a choice and start moving towards it. This will usually evoke an immediate reaction. Maybe you'll start feeling a greater sense of ease or some excitement, and as you move, you find yourself with a stronger and stronger yes. Or you'll start backpedalling and going, what the heck was I thinking? I don't want to do this. Either way, you'll know.
For a risk-free way of making that move, here's a simple technique my mom taught me. Flip a coin. Yep, I said flip a coin. When it comes down heads or tails, your body will have an instinctive reaction: "Yes!" or "Bleh." Your body knows the answer. Go where the "Yes!" is.
And if you have no reaction, a few things could be going on. It may not be time to make a decision. Perhaps you're simply not ready to move on this or your inner guidance system needs some attunement. Give yourself some space. Take some time for self-care and then give it another go. It's also possible that this decision isn't terribly important after all. Pick one and get it done or forget them both and start looking for an option that does make your heart go boom.
You deserve choices that make your heart say "YES!" When you are struggling with a decision, move towards something. It may feel scary but as OSHO says, "Follow your heart, if you can find it. If you can't find it - just jump - your heart will start beating so fast there will be no mistake about where it is!"